When Love Dies.....

I am sure must of you have been in love in your life time. That feeling of complete happiness and being fulfill with joy. Fast heartbeat when ever their name is mentioned or they appear.  Love is such an enormous emotion. Just to say you love someone shouldn't be taken or said lightly, 
When love has died it means you have lost that connection with another individual.

 Relationships does not die a natural death. It gets murdered by ego, attitude, ignorance and lack of caring. Love dies only when individuals stop growing. When love is not fed (by attention, romance, laughter, sincerity, thoughts, caring, togetherness) it dies hard.

You never really stop loving someone, you just learn to live without them.

Waiting for someone to show and give you love is a sign of patience. Anyone can say "I Love you," but not everyone can wait and prove it's true.

A person never stops trying to show the person they love how must they mean to them, unless they have stop loving the person for who they are. This happens to a lot of relationships in today's time.

Nobody dies from a lack of sex, it is from a lack of love that kills a person's emotions. We should always look forward to the day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never would work with anyone else. 

"Love lives on hope and dies when hope is DEAD. It is a flame which goes out from lack of fuel." author Charles Cotton










Your Beginnings...

As the new year begins so does your hopes and dreams. We should always look at the new year as a new start. Starting over is another opportunity to accomplish what we didn't in the previous year.

Think of your life as the hands on a clock, those hands never goes backward, only forward in time. The word beginning mean "the point in time which somethings starts," which is where you are now.

I know you have hear the saying, if only I could turn back the hands of time to allow yourself to go down a different road. You can't turn back the hands, but you can move forward and start something better.

If you didn't accomplish what you wanted in the past year you now get another shot at it, starting now.

Remember life isn't always about trying to fix something that's broken, it is about starting over and creating something better.

Starting today means to forget what's gone, appreciate what still remains and look forward to what's coming next. Strength is in the ability to persist and start over.

Starting over with a new pattern of thoughts, emotions, beliefs and new connections to the world.  Starting over again allows you another chance to make things rights.

Starting over doesn't mean giving up on your dreams, just moving forward.

            "Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." by Seneca



A New Year!!!!

Some of us are happy to see the old year end and there are a lot of us who don't like a new year of unknown.

We need to embrace everyday and be grateful that you have a new beginning. Beginnings are hard to grasp but are necessary to grow. There are so many that didn't get to start over. To begin a new adventure in life is a blessing. We must always look forward to a new and better future.

To begin new means letting go of all the negativity, even if that are friends that don't add value to your life. We have the tendency to hold on because we are afraid to be alone. Being alone allows us to know and appreciate ourselves, to discover who we are and what we want.

Everyone doesn't appreciate your dream and therefore are unable or just unwilling to assist you with the steps you need to move forward. But that's OK because all you need is yourself confidence and approval.

STOP! and look back on the year that's pass and ask yourself did you utilize and benefit from the time you were given? Look at your accomplishments and be proud. When was the last time someone told you that they were proud of you? When was the last time your felt proud of yourself?

Go forward and list your dreams and goals for the new year and cross them off as you accomplish them and see if you can start making yourself proud.

Embrace the New Year with being positive, having hope, and staying happy. Follow your dreams and hopefully there will be someone in your life to help promote your dreams to continue to move forward.

Thank you all for following and reading my blogs of inspirations in 2016 and I hope to do you proud in the New Year, 2017.


   "A Journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step." - a Chinese Proverb


Happy New Years :)

A Recipe of Life...

As we prepare for the biggest day for thanks, this is a good time to look at all the recipes that will be cooked on "Thanksgiving Day". This might be a good time to look at the recipe for your life.

We all have a reason to be thankful, either for your health, your life and the love of your family and friends. Feeling thankful should not just be on "Thanksgiving Day" but all the time throughout the year.

The recipe of life is made of a full cup of happiness, a full cup of trust, a full cup of honesty and you throw in a cup and 1/2 of love.

Happiness is a guarantee for you to be able to rise above the nonsense of the day.

Trust is to be able for you and everyone you deal with to believe in themselves and you.

Honesty is something you need in order for people feel comfortable, trust and happy with you.

Love always shows your true feelings to others. Also more important, you are able to love yourself.

Mix all these ingredients together to create a true and honest you. To have a great relationship with yourself will allow you to make the best recipe for your life. Look inward to your heart to make this recipe brew.

All recipes can be changed or altered to make a better creation of yourself.

What is your recipe of life? Is it to be a better person, more truthful and loving? Once your recipe is decided on and completed, the person you wish to be will rise.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving and remember you are the only one that can create a difference in your recipe.

"You gave me your time, the most thoughtful gift of all." author Dan Zadra






The First Time...

Everything in your life had to be learn for the first time. The first time you learn how to speak, your first steps, you first thought. All of these functions were learned.

Your first belief, your first hurt and disappointment, your first love and heartbreak. You have learned how to survive and rise above your upsets.

You will always have to be prepared for the first of everything. You don't know when you will have to face another first, but you should be able to reach back and see how you survived and handled the first time adventures and you were able to deal and move on.

As long as you live, there will always be a first time for something new. You will have good and bad first times, but you will learn and grow from all new adventures and move forward.

You can never make the same mistake twice, because the second time it's not a mistake, it's a CHOICE.     


            "There's a first time for everything." author Greg Owen



Wake Up Call....

Some of us woke up this morning to a surprising event. We have no control of what happens in life. There has always been ups and downs in life and we all have survive them.

We as human being are very strong people and we need to look inside ourselves to find the strength that we all have. Let's not go around being angry and upset but hopeful because hope is the only thing stronger than fear. We learn from yesterday, we live for today and we hope for tomorrow.

Let us all fight against the hatred that we have all been exposed to in the last few months. Let us come together to show strength and unity with each other. Let us raise above the ugliness and shine the beauty that we all have within us.

Now is the time to look at our life and see how far we have come. Look at all the ups and downs that have occurred in our lifetime and how we rose above it and remained strong. Hope sometimes is all we have when we have nothing else. If we have hope, we have everything.

As we move forward, and we shall, look inside ourselves and reach deep down and pull up the strength and belief that we always had.

Life has just gave us lemons and it is up to us to make the best DAM lemonade we have ever made. We are stronger together and need to remain positive within ourselves.

We can not lose ourselves in anger but we need to fight to keep positivity. Don't allow anyone or anything to defeat our dreams.  Our dreams will never die unless we stop dreaming.

Trust yourself and believe in yourself, that you can and will move forward.

Another day has started, so let us all walk with our heads high because we all matter!


"Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape you future." Robert H. Schaller

"Hope is not a dream but a way of making dreams become reality." L.J. Suenens





Making Choices....

As we approach election day this week to choose the people that we believe will be the best person for this country, you need to stop and look at some of your life choices.

This is a good time for you to reflect on things and people in your life and take a look at the steps that got you where you are. A time to start making different choices to improve your life, because you are the driver of your changes.

Election time is a good time to look over your accomplishments and make changes to your goals. Especially those goals that were made and not achieved, because they may need some fine tuning. If you haven't elected to move forward in your life to improve where you are, now is a great time to start.

If you are one of those people that are still on the fence about your future think about the 3 C's of life: CHOICES, CHANCES, CHANGES. You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.

When you go into the voting booth to make a decision for the country, you might want to do the same for yourself. The decision that you choose on the ballet has no guarantee that it's going to work. Neither does the changes that you implement in your life, there are no guarantees in life. But, that should not stop you from making choices in your life. So, pull the lever in your life and take a chance to see the difference it could make. 

Because election day is the day to pick the best choice, it is a good time to look at your life and see if you picked the best choice for you.


"Remember, there are no mistake, only lessons. Love yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possible." author Cherie-Carter Scotts




What Scares You?

We all have different types of fears and some of those fears keep us from being who we really are.

Some of us are so afraid to share ourselves with others, to show affection, emotions or friendship to another individual. This is one type of fear that in some cases is hard to move past. That fear of letting others into your world frightens you so much, because hurt is always in the forefront and disappointment is always just around the corner. So, trusting others is scary.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure and it is our future, not our past, that most frightens us. If you live in fear of the future, because of what happened in your past, you will end up losing what you have in your present.

All human beings need to be loved and appreciated. Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will

We can deal with fear as follows: forget everything and run or face everything and rise. It is your choice.

          " The fear we don't face becomes our limits." author Robin Sharma




Words Matter...

How many of us have said things that we regret saying right after it is said? The truth seems to always comes out when one gets angry.

Many of us have told a little white lies to someone just not to hurt their feelings. But, what happens when they finally find out the truth? Your WORDS MATTER!

Your words sometimes can make or break a person's hope and dreams. Once the words are said, re-tracking is not an opinion.

Some words are said to comfort the hurt, to cover up feelings, to place shame, to help heal and even used to place blame. Words can build people up and destroy them also.

Words can make you smile, make you cry and even make you feel fantastic. Words can also be used to push people away.

We all need to think about what we say to others before those words leave our mouth. It is so easy for some of us to just spit out words, just to make ourselves feel better or fulfilled.

If you are a person of words, make sure you can stand by those words with no regrets because your words does matter.

We all have heard words that hurt or just hang over our heads. Believe it or not words have started wars with other countries.

Truth be told, words matter a lot, your words does have an effect others. So, before you speak it, review it.

  "People may hear your words, but they feel you attitude." authorJohn C. Maxwell




Human Strength

We all think of the word strength as being physically strong and having a strong body.

Have you ever thought of your mind having strength? Believing in your thoughts, hopes and dreams makes you strong. You as a human being standing strong in your abilities and not wavering, makes you strong.

 To be able to forgive people that wasn't sorry for things they have done or said to you takes a lot of strength.

Your belief in yourself keeps you strong. Your daily battle with your heart verses your head is a challenge, your choices in life are yours to make, right or wrong. Wrong decisions are ones we should learn from and right decisions are ones we should share and be proud of. As humans beings we make decisions on a daily basis and we don't know if they are right or wrong, but we stand on our strengths and beliefs.

Human strength is amazing, we don't have to build our muscles to prove we are strong, but we do have to build our minds constantly in order to remain strong mentally.

Speak strength to yourself and you will be strong, speak weakness and you will be weak and perish.

Look for hope, love, and compassion in everyone and that will show your strengths.

"Strength doesn't come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn't." author Rikki Rogers






Life's Trophy...

Some of us go through life hoping to find that gold at the end of the rainbow, winning the lottery for instance is one pot we all wish we could cook in. Thinking that it is the trophy of life to have lots of money.

To my surprise the trophy of life is something much more important. You wonder what that trophy is, that trophy is you. You have won your way through life with your goodness, kindness and love. That trophy that you have earned as a great human being. 

It is a trophy that can't be denied or removed from your life. Your trophy spreads knowledge, hope, love and doesn't just sit on a shelf getting dusty.

Believe it or not this trophy of life that you so honorably earned came from hard work and appreciation of others and life.

You need to stop and look at what you have accomplished. Whether it is giving a hand up or praising someone for their good deeds, these are just a few trophies of life you should be very proud to display.

You are a person of integrity and you should wear your smile as one of your trophies of life.

We all present our trophies of life in different ways, but we all need to stop and see the trophies we have contributed to our life and others.

"I don't need the trophy or ribbon to remind me of my accomplishments or anything." written by Andrew Hoffman



Having Regrets...

Regret is being disappointed in something that HAS happened. The important word in this sentence is HAS, something that's happened in the past. There is a reason why certain things happen in our life, whether good or bad, it happens for a reason. These things are lessons to teach us to be better not bitter.

You never know what you have until you lose it and once you have lost it you can never get it back, so why spend your days regretting it. Don't regret what you lost, because you at least took a chance toward what you wanted and you have learned to move past it.

You should never regret something or someone that once made you smile in your life, because it was exactly what you needed at that time.

Time isn't promised to anyone, so you should always tell people how you feel because opportunities are lost in a blink of an eye but regrets can last a lifetime.

The worst regret you can have in life is not for doing the wrong things, but for doing the right things for the wrong people. Time Wasted!

Any regrets you may have should be lessons learned. Never regret anything that has happened in your life, if it cannot be changed, undone or forgotten look at it as a lesson learned and move on.

Never give up on something you really want. It can be difficult sometimes in life to wait, but it will be more difficult to regret that you didn't wait.

Regrets are nothing more than wasted thoughts and energy. So, it didn't work out this time for whatever reason, the deed is done move on to the next thing and hopefully this will be a lesson learned not to be repeated.

"Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow." author L. Ron Hubbard



A feeling of self assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities is the meaning of confidence. This is something that we are not born with but grows into daily. The secret is that we must massage it constantly.

Feeling confident with ourselves makes us feel strong and fearless. It makes our words more powerful because we speak with strength. 

Never underestimate our strengths or your weaknesses, what you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you. You need to believe in yourself.

How to be confident:

  • Don't compare yourself to others because your strengths and weaknesses are different.
  • Don't sweat the small things in life.  Trust in the fact that things would be different if you didn't exist.
  • Always try to present a positive attitude, constantly look for the good in others not just their faults.
  • Do what you love because life is to short to waste your time

Confidence is not walking into a room thinking your are better than everyone else, it is walking into a room not having to compare yourself at all, you are simply you.

Confidence doesn't come when you have all the answers, but it comes when you are ready to face all the questions, so I am told. The more you stick to your decisions in life the less you need approval from others.

Always believe you are good enough to shine. Never allow anyone to put that light out inside yourself.

Have confidence to take a risk, take a chance, make a change and break away. Become your own person.

    "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent" by Eleanor Roosevelt




For those of us that have shared with another person their deepest and personal thoughts and feelings have truly learned how to trust others. The first step in trusting others is to learn how to trust yourself, know yourself and believe in yourself. To be able to openly discuss your inner feelings and thoughts with someone means you have established a trust with that person.

To trust someone whole heartedly is a step that some of us must work on. If any of you are like me, I don't trust easily, so when I tell you that I trust you, I hope you don't make me regret it.

Without building trust with someone, you will always travel your life alone. Not trusting people will leave you in an isolated frame of mind.

The true meaning of trust is: a firm belief in the reliability, truth or strengths of someone or something.

We as humans beings were not put here to accomplish things alone. When you share your troubles with someone it may help you move forward and begin to trust people.

To trust someone is allowing yourself to open up and be relax with that person you are confiding in. To be able to express your feelings honestly is one way to establish trust with that individual and call them a friend.

The trust that someone else gives you should never be taken for granted and your trust should always be valued.

Trust takes years to build, second to break and forever to repair. Forgiving someone isn't the hard part it's trusting them again.

Trust is like an eraser, it gets smaller and smaller after every mistake.


"The thought of trusting one's SELF can evoke many feelings and emotions, primary among them, FEAR." -Jim Phillips



We are all born and delivered into this world the same way. We are born to different parents, in a different culture and at different times. All of this makes us different and diverse.

But there is one part of that diversity that some of us have learned, that is HATRED.

Such a small word with so much impact. We as people will never ever be on the same wave link, because we are different. And because we are different there are a few that just seem to hate us for that.

We should not allow those differences to tear us apart, just because I don't look like you, think like you, act like you. We should bring it together and grow and learn from each other. We might not agree with everything people do, but we should respect the values of others.

We as people have to join together and continue to move forward in times of upset. Don't allow any one to build a wall around you, forcing you to stay where you are and not grow,

Hate is an emotion that runs deep and dark. We need to shine a light on who we are and not judge others for whom they are. There is a lot of good in this world and that is what we need, to be able step up to the plate and eat hate up.  

Take the time to look inside yourself to see if you are honest with your feelings toward others. How do you really fell toward people who don't look like you? who don't speak like you? Who doesn't have the same beliefs as you? This is where it starts, with you.

STOP! open your mind to diversity, LOOK! what we need to change, LISTEN! be open minded to other's differences. We can all live life with our differences, if we are willing to stop the HATRED.

"Trust is the GLUE of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships."  - Stephen Covey


Need vs Want..

These are two words which are similar in nature, but they have different meanings. WANT meaning to have a desire to possess something and NEED meaning to require something because it is essential to live.

The difference between WANT and NEED besides the meaning is self control.

We have all made decisions in our life about things you wanted, but the question is did you really need it? Did it make you happy? Did it make you more money? Did it fulfill your wants and needs or did it just leave you empty?

Everything you WANT is on the other side of fear, in order to achieve what you WANT you will NEED to get past the fear. Once you have completed this step everything you NEED will come to you at the perfect time.

Never let the things you WANT make you forget the things you have.

Don't feel bad if people remember you only when they NEED you. Feel privileged that you are like a candle that comes to their mind when there is darkness.

You will begin to realized that the only people you NEED in your life are the ones who needs you in theirs, even when you have nothing else to offer but yourself.

Sometimes you NEED someone to simply be there. Not to fix anything or to do anything in particular, but just to let you feel cared for and supported.

Happiness isn't about getting what you WANT all the time. It's about loving what you have and being grateful for it.

One of your goals in life should be to create a life that you don't always NEED a vacation from.

"The first step to getting the things you WANT out of life is this: Decide what you NEED." Ben Stein













CHANGE is a word that frightens most of us. We all go through changes in life, some can be good and/or bad. Still changes take you in a different direction that allows you to grow and become stronger. A new direction is always scary because it is unknown territory and unpredictable events which will shape your future.

When you share your journey with someone they help you when you stumble. That person motivates you to continue moving forward. Most of your changes in life are done alone. Trying to figure out what turns to make, what steps to take. We won't always make the right steps but the trick is to make small steps to create a large change in your life.

Falling is part of moving forward when there are changes in one's life. You may get bruised and scrape knees but through the struggle of change one will become stronger. Don't allow naysayers to interrupt the direction you are headed in.

Making changes in your life is hard enough without having others block your steps. They can either be a bridge to help you go forward or quicksand to pull you down. Know where you are stepping. Say goodbye to the anchors of your life and then you will be able to move freely in the direction you are suppose to go. Don't live your life for others.

Moving forward is excepting the changes and embracing the next phase of your life. 

Change begins on the inside, you must want to change in order to improve on the direction you are suppose to go. Some changes must occur in order for you to grow. One must believe that they can grow and that growth will happen.

Fear comes with all new changes you take, don't be afraid to live, love, grow and be happy.


             "Be the change you wish to see in the world...."gandhi



Life Matters!!

This is another sad day for our country. Another senseless shooting of  black and white individuals.

When are we going to stop and realized that lives matter, black, white, yellow or brown. No one should have their life taken away because of the color or their skin.

We as people need to realized that no matter what color your skin is people are and always will be HUMAN BEINGS.

We all bleed red; we all are created in the same fashion; we all have feeling and emotions and we all suffer the same pain when we lose a love one.

All this hatred that is making us afraid of each other must come to an end. If it doesn't we will all feel more divided then ever.

We don't want to live our life in fear, wondering if we get stopped for anything do we have to think about what is more important; our rights or our life.

We need to stop being afraid of each other because we are different on the outside. We all bleed the same and we all die the same.

As we move forward, we must, in our life let's just try and show our children that every life matters, no matter what skin color people are. 

" The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that is wrong with the world." author Paul Farmer




The Gift.....

We are all born with special gifts. Some of us know what they are and others haven't even tapped into it yet.

A gift that you share with other human beings without you really knowing is a blessing.

The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you give time to others you are giving a portion of yourself that you will never get back but will always be remembered. You are sharing the most inner workings of the human emotions.

The way you discover your gift is really by serving it (sharing) not by searching (looking) for it. Once you discover your gift it should be shared freely with others, no string attached.

Some of us go through our life never realizing how much we touch other lives, until someone says thank you for making me smile, thank you for helping me out, thank you for just being there. That is a gift you extended to someone which made their day with little effect from you.

Once you discover your gift just keep sharing it and allow it to grow. A gift not shared is just an unopened present.

"Do Not ignore your gifts, Your gift is the thing you do the absolute BEST with and it takes the LEAST amount of effort." by Steve Harvey




We all know the word failure and some of us have learned how to grow from our failures. We are told to work hard and you will succeed, this is true. But, because you work hard doesn't mean you won't fail.

Failure is success if you learn from it. It gives you the opportunity to begin again more wisely. 

Failure is not the opposite of success, it is part of success.

Failure is a part of life. If you don't fail, you don't learn. If you don't learn you'll never change. Failure pushes you one step forward toward your dream. Don't let failure DEFINEYOU! 

Lot's of people want to shake your hand when you are successful, but what you really need is someone who will take your hand and comfort you when you fail. Someone to be there just to let you know failure is not FINAL.

Giving up on yourself is failing. Failure is a lesson learned. Success is a lesson that will be applied to your life. Sometimes in life you fall hard, but the harder you fall the stronger you rise.

Failure is life's feedback, Learn from it, Grow from it and never be afraid to restart your dream. The only true failure is when you stop trying.

Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.

" Don't worry about failure, worry about the chances you missed when you didn't even try." Jack Canfield