ups and Downs of Life

We all have our "ups and downs" in our lifetime. We must remember that the changes that occur in our life are helping to mold us into a better and stronger person.

We all have down periods in life, unhappiness, disappointments, hurtful surprise, but those "ups" that we encounter is meant to help us through the down times. Rock bottom becomes a SOLID foundation on which you rebuilt your life.

The "ups" in life is to help us cope with those undesirables events that occur in our life. To be happy and free of angry helps us to deal with those mishaps. Those "up" times should be stored in our hearts, so that we will be able to pull them out to balance the "down" times.

The saying doesn't say "downs and ups", it states "ups and downs", the strength comes from the "ups" you build to support you through those disappointing times.

As long as we are alive there will be someone or something that will disappoint you, but you should have stored up enough of your strength from the good times to survive these challenging times. Someone's bad "ACTIONS" should not make your "REACTION" negatively.

Take your "ups and downs" in life and use them as many stepping stones to move forward. By putting all your "ups" together will create a stronger you, makes you happier and well balance. Just make sure you hang on to the "ups" in life and learn from "downs", the only one that has that power to make you happy is yourself.

"Ups and downs" in life are used to balance out life's adventures, because in life everything can't be always good. It might look like the world is falling apart but keep stepping forward, it might be slow and hurt as you go through it, but if you keep walking forward you will walk into your "UP" again.

Riding life's roller coaster comes with it "ups and downs", but it's your CHOICE to scream or to enjoy the ride.  

Through life's "ups and downs" we must remember that the only one that has the power to controls your outlook in life is you. 

" Believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. People CHANGE so that you can LEARN to let go. Things go WRONG so that you appreciate them when they're RIGHT. You believe LIES so you EVENTUALLY LEARN to trust no one but YOURSELF. And sometimes good things fall apart so better things can FALL TOGETHER." - Marilyn Monroe

RIDE THE WAVE!

 

The Core of Friendship

Friendship means understanding, NOT always agreeing. It means forgiveness, NOT forgetting. It means the memories last, even if contact is lost. A friendship doesn't need daily conversation, doesn't always need togetherness, as long as the relationship lives in the heart, true friends will never part. 

Being a friend should not be one sided, it is helping each other to laugh, grow, support,live and love each other no matter what. You both respect each other with all your faults, friends share a special heart.

Friends do have their ups and downs too, but together you both can weather the storm and come out stronger. There is no better feeling than knowing someone cares and respects you as much you care and respect yourself.

Unexpected friendships are the best ones, every person needs a best friend to help them laugh when they think they will never smile again.

Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. In life we never lose friends, we only learn who the true ones are.

The actions of F.R.I.E.N.D.S:

                                     F-ights for you

                                     R-espects you

                                     I-ncludes you

                                     E-ncourages you

                                     N-eeds you

                                     D-eserves you

                                     S-tands by you

Life's journey is easier when you hear a friend's footsteps beside you, traveling the road together makes it easier to walk it. A best friend is hard to find but lucky to have. When you meet these people they make you laugh, give you hope, give you strength and they make you realize that there is so much more to life. When you deal with these type of people you forget how empty you felt before, that is a true friendship.

Remember, you don't need to have a lot of people who call themselves your friend, you just need to have "TRUE" people that can become "REAL" friends. It's not the quantity of friends you have, it is the quality of friends you have.

I hope you all get to experience great friendships in your lifetime, it will keep you smiling. Never under estimate the power you have as a friend.

"There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did and who always will" author unknown

ALWAYS MATTER!

Learning to F.L.Y.

Before we fly we must make certain that we know the steps in life we need to take. Here are just a few of them: we need to make positive affirmation everyday; trust yourself; forgive yourself; be truthful to yourself; nurture after your dreams; boost your confidence; admire the beauty; fall in love with yourself; have fun. Sometimes the person you need to LOVE is yourself.

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.

Loving yourself first shows you what you deserve from others, you have to find yourself first before someone else can find you.

If you don't learn to love yourself first you'll always be chasing after people who don't love you either. How many tears does it take before you realize that it is not people that makes you happy but the love for yourself that keeps you happy.

Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of others loving you. Happiness means loving yourself first so you can share that love with someone else.

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. Don't let someone else define who you are.

            "If you want to SOAR in life, than you must first learn to F.L.Y. (First Love Yourself)" author Mark Sterling

F.L.Y.

Talk to Me!

So many of us have lost the ability to talk to one another, share our feelings orally instead of in writing.

We have learned to text and email which is a quick and easy way to talk to each other, things today move to fast. Text or email can be missed understood, depending on how the reader interprets the message.

Talking to each other has become an art of communication, something learned and in need of practice. Sending email/texts is great if you wish to get your message delivered non emotionally quickly.  

When we talk to one another you enjoy the sound of laughter back and forth, feeling the emotions of the day, happiness, sadness, disappointment, something that could well be covered up with words.

Our communications skills have become so technical and non- emotional. Social Media has made it easier to stay in touch every minute of the day but has taken out the human emotion of listening.

Don't know about you, but I enjoy hearing the excitement in people's voice about their vacation, their disappointments, just the ups and downs of their life and be able to ease their unhappiness with a word or a phrase, that is what it is all about.

By talking with someone you may be able to offer them some peace of mind, a friendship, a comfort spot instantly. 

One day the world will be a quiet place to live. We all know how to LOL and LMAO, let us just learn to talk to each other more.

Talk to me (TTM) because you are lonely, scared, hurt or you just to laugh,cry together.

"Let our hearts be opened by voices and not closed by words on a paper" author gsj coaching

 

TTM!!!

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EMOTIONS....

We all go through some emotional ups and downs in our life. The magic word here is "THROUGH".

Some of us get very emotional when others disappoint us and we seem to stay there, all upset about a situation that happened. It has happened and we need to move through it. Don't allow an emotional upset to rain on your parade.

We should never let our emotions overpower our intelligence.

Emotions like love, surprises, happiness, thoughtfulness are just a few feelings we wish to keep. But hate, hurt, and disappointments are just some emotions we must learn to get through.

Emotions are like waves, you cannot stop them from coming, but you can decide which wave to surf.

 When a person that made you feel special yesterday makes you feel unwanted today, can really hurt your feelings. You need to learn to move through the hurt. Don't make a permanent decision for your temporary emotion.

We might control our thoughts, but we are still slaves to our emotions. Emotions are energy in motion (Peter McMilliams). 

For some of us we put up walls in our life, not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to knock the wall down. Sometimes that wall never gets touched and remains there for a lifetime.

Stop isolating yourself because of emotions and letting them control your life. Life happens!

Live your life and enjoy all aspects of it ,taking the good with the bad, because the next day isn't promised to us.

"You must be the master of you emotions if you wish to LIVE IN PEACE, for he who can control himself, becomes FREE"  author Sean Brown

DARE TO BE FREE!!!

Editing Anger....

Anger is a human emotion of displeasure or hostility.  We all get anger in our life for something or another. Someone is late for dinner, someone is taking advantage of your good nature, someone has lied to you.

We can't allow anger to overshadow the good things in life. Throughout life we will discover that life doesn't promise us happiness, life itself is a variety package that is never wrapped up with a bow.

We get anger with things because it is easier to say you are mad than admitting you are hurt. It is just a way to release our hurt feelings.

Even the nicest person have their limits and when someone pushes you to those limits you will get angry, that is just a human reaction. When we get angry we are not thinking or making the best decision.

Sometime we must just take a step back and re-focus our thoughts. Don't ever act out of anger, because when you look back you will have regrets.

Don't live your life with anger and hate in your heart, you will only be hurting yourself more than the person you hate.

In the last couple of days I have learned that for every minute I was angry I gave up a minute of my happiness. I won't say that you will never get angry but when you do, realized that it should only be a passing emotion to something better.

"If you go through life angry you will endup with nothing but you and your anger" author Kenneth Waters Jr.

STAY STRONG!!

The Send Button of Life

I bet you didn't realize that you have a "SEND BUTTON" in life just like in texting. Yes, that button is spoken words instead of being writing words. Just like texting a message once you press that send button on your computer it is gone. The send button in life are words spoken. Once you've said it, you have sent the message. 

When you text and press that send button it can't be retracted, it can't be re-directed, it is now on it's way to be delivered. When you say something that shouldn't have been said, that is your send button, same as texting it can't be re-retracted.

 The difference between the two buttons are one is written and the other one is spoken. Neither one of them can be call back if something is said or written incorrectly.

Once something is spoken in anger, jealousy, hurt or love, you now have said it and it can't be changed. It has been delivered just like a text message.

When delivering words by text or verbally we need to make sure that what is written or said is formatted so that the person receiving it understands where you are coming from.

Remember through our words, written or spoken, is the way we communicate with each others.

Don't press that send button until you are sure that what you have said isn't going to break that connection with you or the other person.

The message below is something I can say or text with no worries:

                  " I smile whenever I get a text or call from you"

Make someone SMILE!!!!

I AM

Two important words that everyone should respect. Many of us have experienced times in our life when others have tried to change us to  fit into a specific mold.

Have you gone through a transformation of trying to be someone you are not, just to please others? At the same time have you notice how difficult it is to try and become someone you are not?

Trying to be what others want you to be will cause you to lose yourself. You are not perfect, none of us are, but that doesn't mean you can't be yourself. It doesn't mean you have to be a fake.

 If people don't like what they see, then they can just walk away. Your true friends will love you for who you are, not who they want you to be.

Somewhere in your life you MUST take root and stand strong, be who you are and not what someone else wants you to be.  Love yourself!!

You are a strong person, but every once in awhile you might want someone to take your hand and tell you that everything's going to be alright. That is OK, doesn't make you a weak person, it makes you human.

If people except you for the way you are that's good, if they don't it's their loss. Don't apologize for who you are.

The best feeling in the world is knowing your presence and absents means something to someone.

"I'd rather be hated for who I AM, than loved for who I AM not." author Jory Hancock

I AM ME!!

Success.......

The word success is just a word to so many of us. We go through life focusing on different ways to exist but not to succeed.

Success in life comes when you simply refuse to give up on your dream. When your goals are so strong that obstacles, failure and loss acts as motivation.

So many of us won't make goals because you think it takes to long to accomplish them. There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs, one step at a time.

Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success. If you are doing something that you love to do, than you are successful.

A successful person begins with two beliefs: the future can be better than the present, and I have the power to make it happen.

Always remember, that it is difficulties that gives birth to miracles. Success is not always what you see.

              "In order to succeed we must first believe that we can" author Nikos Kazantzakis

I AM GOING TO SUCCEED!!

Weeding Out Life's Garden

We all get busy throughout our lifetime not noticing the weeds that are growing in our garden of life. Those weed are people and things that we gathered throughout our growth in life.

Sometimes, we must just stop and look at those people and things that we let fill up our life. Some of the people are beneficial and others are slowing our growth.

Take a look at the things and people around you and determine whether or not they are  encouraging and promoting you or just stealing your strength ,emotions and growth. Like weeds in a garden, some people needs to be weeded from that garden. This process allow the flowers, being you, to grow stronger.

Everyone that crosses your path is not a friend.  Some people just attach themselves to you and hinders and steals your happiness.

Some weeds can look just like flowers but they are stealing the nutrients from the real flower and that flower dies. 

In our daily life we need to stop and take inventory of the people that are surrounding and influencing us.  Those people that help you follow your dreams and walks along that bumpy road with you are truly your friends. Sometime the biggest mistake you can make is letting  certain people stay in your life far longer than they deserve to.

Those people who just attached themselves to you and they make no contributions to your growth needs to be weeded out.

Weeding out your garden will help get rid of the stress caused by the people that are not very supportive in your growth.

Yes! Life get's busy, but take the time to respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.

There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama & the people who create it (weeds). Surround yourself with people who makes you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.

" There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump puddles for you." author unknown

WEED YOUR GARDEN!!!!

THE LOSS OF A CHILD

As a parent the love you get from a child or children is priceless. That love is so honest and strong I truly believe it could move mountains, ok maybe not mountains, but surely a parent's heart. 

Having  a child is more than just bringing life into this world, it is a human being that comes to you with a blank slate and allows you, as parents, to teach and form that's child's behavior.

As a parent you are always doing your best for your child, teaching them right from wrong. Showing them love not hate, helping them to become the best person they could be. 

What happens if that child is taken from you suddenly by an accident? Since they have become such a large part of your life how do you continue to live without them?

Do you give up and die with that child or do you remember the love and pleasure that child gave to you and the world?

Although, it would be an awful thing to happen to you, losing a child, it would be divesting to just allow yourself to give up your life.

By giving up it means, there would be no one around to share with the world the joy and happiness that child brought into the world. To share the pleasure, truth, love and life that was born.

Nothing is more powerful than a child's love, which continue to live with in your heart. The love of a child will always be there for you, as long as you continue to remember that love and joy your child gave you.

Healing after the death of a child takes a lot more than just time. it's not as easy as that, it takes a great deal of HEART work. So, if you have lost a child, be gentle on yourself and take all the time you need, please Don't quit!

"You can do the impossible, because you have been through the unimaginable" author Christina Rasmussen

REST IN PEACE, MARGARET!

LETTING GO....

There are things and people in our life that we know we must let go of. We will put off changes in our life because it is just to hard to re-direct our steps.

Forgiveness and letting go are the main steps to get on the road to happiness.

There comes a time in everyone's life when you need to step back and re-evaluate the direction you are going in. Take a look at the steps you have made toward your dream and how many more you have to go. What changes you have to make and how do you make those changes.

Sometime you need to look at the people and things in your life and make a honest decision, if they are helping or hindering you from your dream. Not all people in your life are meant to stay.

You've traveled on the road toward your dreams for years and collected things and people along the way. You get to a fork in the road and have to make a decision whether to hang on to the things or people that are not encouraging you and are just concern for themselves. Has the things or people that you collected along the way helping or hurting your future travels.

The purpose of "LETTING GO" is to make the travel lighter to ensure you will accomplish your goal. Letting go is hard but sometimes holding on is harder.

If you think of life as a garden of flowers and sometimes that garden get weeds and stifles the growth of the flowers.  You pull the weeds out of the garden so that the flowers will have room to grow and won't have to share their nutrients with something as selfish as a weed. By removing the weeds this allows the flowers to blossom and grow within themselves.

So, why would you allow things or people to continually steal the nutrients in your life.

Don't let your garden of life be destroyed because you are to afraid to let go of the weeds.

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong but sometimes it is letting go" author Hermann Hesse

BE FREE!!!

Don't Live a Zombie's Life!

Zombies are described as dead corpses that drag around grabbing living people and draining their body of blood, in order for them to live. The purpose for them doing this is to exist they are not livinig. No matter what, they are DEAD.

Don't be someone that drains the life from others just to exist. Have goals, dreams and a direction that will keep you alive not just living others dreams.

Don't just go through life hanging on to others existence, living their lives, doing what they do and forgetting your own.

Make sure that everyone you deal with in your life is someone to encourage you to grow and follow your dreams. There are so many zombies in this world that will just drain you of your desires and wants. They would like you to be just like them, just existing not living.

Living a full and exciting life will keep you from being one of the living dead.

Be the hunter not the hunted. Take control of your life, make it matter. Don't let anyone drain you of your future.

"If someone is strong enough to bring you down, show them you are STRONG ENOUGH to get up" author unknown

Stay Stong!!

Beautiful You!

There are 1,000+ different products on the market that claims to make you beautiful, younger and energetic.

These products promise that once you use them you will be wrinkle free, have a younger appearance and help you feel great about yourself.

I am here to tell you that beauty come from the inside. What you feel and show from the inside is what will reflect beauty on the outside. Beauty is being real with yourself, not what you put on your body. You need to except yourself as s beautiful person and others will see your beauty too.

The difference between pretty and beautiful is; pretty is when your outer appearance looks good, beautiful is when one shines from the inside.

Stop thinking so much about your physical appearance, yes! it is good to be healthy, but that is not what makes you beautiful. Your physical appearance will age and change throughout time.

Turn your thoughts to the inside of your body and that beauty will never grow old and it will enhance you more each day.

Being the best possible version of yourself inside and out is what makes your beauty shine through. Beauty is more than your physical appearance.

Beauty is in the EYE of the beholder, so let us behold ourselves with both EYES and see the love you have for yourself and the beauty will shine through.

"One day I decided that I was beautiful & so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. It doesn't have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see." author Gabby Sidibe

STAY GORGEOUS!! 

VISIONS OF YOUR LIFE

We are all born with a blank slate for our life. It is up to us to fill that slate with dreams, hopes, desires and love.

As we go through life filling that slate with dreams, we should be able to alter those dreams as we go, not forget them, just change some parts of that dream without losing our vision.

Your visions for the future might not be easy steps to make, but continue stepping is a must in order to make that vision a reality.

We all should have some kind of vision of where and what we want. Some type of ambition to shoot for.

Just don't be a person that sits there and let life past you by or let life determine your future. We all have the ability to become what we vision for our life, if we would just take control of our steps.

A lot of things happen in our lifetime that we have no control over, but we shouldn't let life's circumstances change the steps for our visions.

We all have the power, within ourselves, to become and create what we vision for our life to be.

Are you stepping in the direction you want to go or are you just sitting on the side lines letting things in your life take control?  

You take control of YOUR life and stop letting life have that control. Vision what you want, feel it, live it and step toward it. Hold the vision, trust the process.

" Vision is not enough, it must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the stairs, we must step up the stairs." author Vachav Havel

I SEE YOU (VISION)!!

REMINISCING.......

We all have done this in our life, sat and reminisced. To sit and recall good things that happened to us in our past.

We experienced good and bad happenings in our lifetime, but we have a tendency to only reminisce the good things that make us smile. 

Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters. As we look back into our past and remember those happier times and friends we spent time with. makes us feel good,

Sometimes it's not the person you miss, it's the feelings and moments you had with them.  When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. People change but memories donot.

A good friend know all your stories, but a best friend has lived them with you.

Memories are a timeless treasures of the heart. So, as we move forward and create new and exciting memories let us remember to enjoy the journey as we travel through our lives.

  "What takes us back to our past are memories. What brings us forward are our dreams."  author Jeremy Irons

REMEMBER!!

Being Loved!

Love is an intense feeling of deep affection for another.  Being loved by someone is the most powerful emotion that exist in the world today. One who can give love will receive love in return.

When someone loves you with their whole heart and soul it can make you feel like you could conquer anything.

When you look at the emotion, love, it is always about sharing your heart, mind and soul with someone or something.

When you start losing control of your feelings, when your thoughts are always about that individual, when that call you receive makes your face light up, when you hear their voice and it makes you smile this is called "LOVE." It is undeniable, uncontrollable, irresistible and unconditional.

Don't be afraid to open your heart and receive the best gift that you will ever get in life and that is LOVE. Love is a beautiful gift, one that we sometime lose because we are afraid to open our hearts and minds to something different.

    "The greatest gift that one can give another is unconditional love. It's the only thing ultimately that really matters"   author  Joy Gardner

OPEN YOUR HEART!!!!

Remembering Our Freedom

Once a year we remember those that have sacrificed their lives for us to be free, that is "Memorial Day".

Freedom is something we should remember all year long. The freedom to come and go as we please, to make your own decision, to work, to love or just do anything we want. Doing what you like is freedom, liking what you do is happiness.

"Memorial Day" is the day to appreciate all the fallen and honor their bravery. We can do this all year long by appreciating what the fallen has given us, by not wasting a moment of this glorious freedom.

Have a safe and happy "Memorial Day" and remember those who have sacrificed their lives to allow us to live ours.

                   "FREEDOM IS BEING YOURSELF WITHOUT PERMISSION" author unknown

Celebrate Freedom!!

Resetting Your Direction

Sometimes when we look back on our life we wished we made different choices along the way.  It is never to late to make changes in our life.

It isn't  always about trying to fix something broken but it is about starting over and creating something better. Remember, there is a difference between giving up and starting over. The  difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude toward that day.

What screws us up most in life, is the picture in our head of how it is should be. Change your thoughts and that will help you change your direction.

Looking at the changes you have made in your life and note that you haven't gotten there yet but you are closer than you were yesterday. 

To help you reset your direction in life, surround yourself with doers, believers and thinkers. Most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness in you when you don't see it in yourself.

    "if you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change you will get results." author Jack Dixon

STAY FOCUS!!!

The Human Touch

In this fast information age it is so easy to text or email people daily. We sometimes forget a simple embrace or conversation with each other.

When you personally give someone a hug or embrace you are sharing a sense of joy. To be touched and hugged by another human being is like sharing your emotions and love with them. Being embraced helps both of you release happiness and fulfillment in that moment.

When we go through life and don't take the time to hold and embrace someone you love, you are denying yourself and that the person a human connection. Don't become so technical that you allow a computer to communicate and express how you feel.

Take a moment and give someone you love a hug and then go back to your technical world. Share yourself with someone and feel that joy of being human for a moment, emotions and all.  

So, if you are so fortunate to have a mother that is close by, run over and give her a hug and tell her how thankful you are to have her in your life. Thank her for all she has done and is still doing for you.

For those of us that don't have a mother close enough to hug, just call ,don't text, and let her know how much you appreciate and love her. That will leave her with a loving feeling she will carry all day and further.

For those of us whose mother is no longer in our presence, sit down for a few minutes today and think of all the hugs and kisses she gave you throughout her lifetime and how many more she would be giving you today. That should make you feel like you've been touched by an angel (MOM).

On this " Mother's Day" I wish you all to experience the human touch from someone that you love.

To all the mothers, I want to wish you a fantastic "Mother's Day" and hope this feeling today will touch your heart and stay with you today and always.

            "There is nothing as sincere as a Mother's kiss" author Saleem Sharma

Happy Mother's Day!!!!